Episode 3
Parrish Diaz, fresh from his first date with the spicy spoken word artist Chantal, encounters the sexy Kandi in his neighborhood bodega and invites her to his place for drinks and chit chat.
It's In the Kiss
A great kiss is everything. Even Drake knows to ask, "What if I kiss you? Will it bring us closer?" There's power in shared pucker. A simple kiss can fly you to the moon or leave you standing in a lurch. It separates friends from the lovers, as both men and women use the kiss as a powerful tool to determine chemistry and attraction. A kiss can make or break a could-be couple. In fact, research has shown that 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women have ended a budding relationship because of a bad first kiss.
If kissing hasn't been your forte to date, the good news is that practice makes perfect. But before you go getting all puckered up, here are six tips to help you become a lip master:
1. Fresh breath. Bad breath can be a total deal-breaker. Pay attention to your oral hygiene always, but especially before a date. Brush and floss regularly and be sure to have some sort of breath freshener in your purse or pocket to pop in your mouth before the moment of truth.
2. Tune Your Instrument. In other words, gentlemen, take notice of the state of your lips. Did you know that, after the genitals, the lips are the most sensitive part of your body? Do you want all of those lovely nerve endings wasted on dry, cracked lips? Pass the lip balm. Whatever it takes to keep your lips soft and irresistible.
3. Anticipation is everything. Know that only fools rush in. Let the tension that comes with mutual chemistry and attraction build, whether it's a first date or the third. Take time to build a little intimacy and create some delicious anticipation, both which are potent ingredients for great sex when the time is right.
4. Have a kiss me "tell". With the above in mind, have a kiss me "tell"-a subtle sign that lets your date know that you are ready and willing to share a smooch. Maybe it's a bottom-lip bite or a quick lip lick, but it should always be accompanied by eye contact.
5. Don't Think. Do. Great kissing is about feel and touch. Thought-not so much. The more you analyze what and how you're doing, the more performance anxiety will kick in. An amazing kiss comes from the heart and soul. Your mouth is merely a conduit that delivers the message of your mood, emotions, and intent. Allow yourself to let go and get lost.
6. Practice. Practice. Practice. Your kiss is your lover's signature, the imprint you leave on their lips and memory. Even if your lips haven't been getting the workout it deserves, worry not. You can be up to speed in no time. A perfect date in a new relationship can and should include an old fashioned make-out session, a kissing clinic that's allows you both to learn just how the other loves to be smooched. And if you're strong enough to leave the sex for another time...WOW...talk about your sexual tension! Smooches!
A great kiss is everything. Even Drake knows to ask, "What if I kiss you? Will it bring us closer?" There's power in shared pucker. A simple kiss can fly you to the moon or leave you standing in a lurch. It separates friends from the lovers, as both men and women use the kiss as a powerful tool to determine chemistry and attraction. A kiss can make or break a could-be couple. In fact, research has shown that 59 percent of men and 66 percent of women have ended a budding relationship because of a bad first kiss.
If kissing hasn't been your forte to date, the good news is that practice makes perfect. But before you go getting all puckered up, here are six tips to help you become a lip master:
1. Fresh breath. Bad breath can be a total deal-breaker. Pay attention to your oral hygiene always, but especially before a date. Brush and floss regularly and be sure to have some sort of breath freshener in your purse or pocket to pop in your mouth before the moment of truth.
2. Tune Your Instrument. In other words, gentlemen, take notice of the state of your lips. Did you know that, after the genitals, the lips are the most sensitive part of your body? Do you want all of those lovely nerve endings wasted on dry, cracked lips? Pass the lip balm. Whatever it takes to keep your lips soft and irresistible.
3. Anticipation is everything. Know that only fools rush in. Let the tension that comes with mutual chemistry and attraction build, whether it's a first date or the third. Take time to build a little intimacy and create some delicious anticipation, both which are potent ingredients for great sex when the time is right.
4. Have a kiss me "tell". With the above in mind, have a kiss me "tell"-a subtle sign that lets your date know that you are ready and willing to share a smooch. Maybe it's a bottom-lip bite or a quick lip lick, but it should always be accompanied by eye contact.
5. Don't Think. Do. Great kissing is about feel and touch. Thought-not so much. The more you analyze what and how you're doing, the more performance anxiety will kick in. An amazing kiss comes from the heart and soul. Your mouth is merely a conduit that delivers the message of your mood, emotions, and intent. Allow yourself to let go and get lost.
6. Practice. Practice. Practice. Your kiss is your lover's signature, the imprint you leave on their lips and memory. Even if your lips haven't been getting the workout it deserves, worry not. You can be up to speed in no time. A perfect date in a new relationship can and should include an old fashioned make-out session, a kissing clinic that's allows you both to learn just how the other loves to be smooched. And if you're strong enough to leave the sex for another time...WOW...talk about your sexual tension! Smooches!
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Lori Bryant-Woolridge is a sensuality coach and advocate for healthy, sensual lifestyles. An Emmy award-winning writer, she has authored three best selling novels.
