Episode 10
Parrish meets up with Dani for their double date with Jasmine and Eddie, two actors from Brooklyn.
Five Tips for a Successful First Date
So you've made contact online or maybe a friend has hooked you up. You've chatted each other up by text and on the phone, and now you're both ready for your first official date. Now what? How do you create a first date that is not only enjoyable but ends on a 'more-to-come' vibe? Here are five simple tips to insure that your first meeting ends with talk of a second.
1. Have a Plan
Planning goes a long way in making sure that things proceed as seamlessly as possible. Sure, the spontaneity associated with winging it can be appealing, but it can lead to romantic homicide. Plan in advance by making necessary reservations, getting directions and parking information, and know approximately how much things will cost prior to arriving. Also, make sure your plans include activities that you both will enjoy, which will go a long way in guaranteeing a second date. That said...
2. Be Flexible
Yes, you want to have a plan, but allow yourself to remain flexible in case the unexpected forces you to alter your arrangements. Nothing ruins a date faster than an angry temper tantrum or a foul mood because things aren't working out the way you expected. And while we're on the subject of expectations-have none. Anticipate a great time, but expect nothing. Expectations too often lead to disappointment because we become fixated on a certain course or outcome. Let "go with the flow" be your mantra for the night.
3. Be Thoughtful
A little thoughtfulness goes a long way. If you're meeting up during the week, don't make plans to stay out late. Also, take in consideration athletic abilities, food preferences, and personal preferences when picking restaurants or activities. This clearly shows your thoughtfulness. On the flip side, don't overwhelm your date with unending compliments or unsolicited affection.
4. Listen and Laugh.
You want to know more about this person at the end of the date, than you did at the beginning, so listen to your date and ask questions. This shows that you are interested, and at the same time allows you to really decide if this is someone you'd like to spend more time with.
Humor is a definite turn on because it's contagious, attractive and has a bonding effect. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself or any mistakes you make during the evening. Don't take yourself, or even the date, too seriously. Keep things fun and light and avoid heavy conversations about exes or children. These topics are appropriate to discuss much later when things progress between you.
5. Show Appreciation
Lastly, your date know how much you appreciate their thoughtfulness and generosity, as well as good company. Effort is sexy, as is gratitude, and both will go a long way in ensuring that dates #2, #3 and beyond are in your near future.
So you've made contact online or maybe a friend has hooked you up. You've chatted each other up by text and on the phone, and now you're both ready for your first official date. Now what? How do you create a first date that is not only enjoyable but ends on a 'more-to-come' vibe? Here are five simple tips to insure that your first meeting ends with talk of a second.
1. Have a Plan
Planning goes a long way in making sure that things proceed as seamlessly as possible. Sure, the spontaneity associated with winging it can be appealing, but it can lead to romantic homicide. Plan in advance by making necessary reservations, getting directions and parking information, and know approximately how much things will cost prior to arriving. Also, make sure your plans include activities that you both will enjoy, which will go a long way in guaranteeing a second date. That said...
2. Be Flexible
Yes, you want to have a plan, but allow yourself to remain flexible in case the unexpected forces you to alter your arrangements. Nothing ruins a date faster than an angry temper tantrum or a foul mood because things aren't working out the way you expected. And while we're on the subject of expectations-have none. Anticipate a great time, but expect nothing. Expectations too often lead to disappointment because we become fixated on a certain course or outcome. Let "go with the flow" be your mantra for the night.
3. Be Thoughtful
A little thoughtfulness goes a long way. If you're meeting up during the week, don't make plans to stay out late. Also, take in consideration athletic abilities, food preferences, and personal preferences when picking restaurants or activities. This clearly shows your thoughtfulness. On the flip side, don't overwhelm your date with unending compliments or unsolicited affection.
4. Listen and Laugh.
You want to know more about this person at the end of the date, than you did at the beginning, so listen to your date and ask questions. This shows that you are interested, and at the same time allows you to really decide if this is someone you'd like to spend more time with.
Humor is a definite turn on because it's contagious, attractive and has a bonding effect. Don't be afraid to laugh at yourself or any mistakes you make during the evening. Don't take yourself, or even the date, too seriously. Keep things fun and light and avoid heavy conversations about exes or children. These topics are appropriate to discuss much later when things progress between you.
5. Show Appreciation
Lastly, your date know how much you appreciate their thoughtfulness and generosity, as well as good company. Effort is sexy, as is gratitude, and both will go a long way in ensuring that dates #2, #3 and beyond are in your near future.
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Lori Bryant-Woolridge is a sensuality coach and advocate for healthy, sensual lifestyles. An Emmy award-winning writer, she has authored three best selling novels.
