After having his date with Cassie interrupted by his ex-girlfriend Sheryl, Parrish Diaz wakes up in bed with Sheryl, dazed and confused.
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Tech Savvy Dating
Smartphones have changed the way we live. These days, there's an app for everything-from buying real estate to pursuing romance. In many ways technology has been a good thing when it comes to dating. Dating on the Internet has brought the dating field into our own living rooms, allowing us to peruse for potential mates at our leisure. Cell phones allow us to keep in touch any and everywhere, while texting has given us a fun and flirty way to woo someone on any given whim.
So, in the spirit of romance, let's dig into one more app-but this time I'm talking apps as in appropriate ways to be a tech savvy dater. Below are a few DO's and DON'Ts when it comes to texting, calling and tweeting.
Texting:
I ain't mad at you if you're out there playing the field and juggling a bevy of partners (as long as they all know this is not an exclusive relationship). But DON'T text next week's date while out with tonight's. Give each person the time, attention, and respect they deserve. Not to do so is just plain rude.
If you've been dating someone for a few months, DON'T breakup with them via text message. Only thoughtless, chicken boneheads break up by text message. Every person in a relationship (and if you spent any kind of quality time with someone, it's a relationship) deserves to be respected with a dignified explanation, at least over the phone, if not in person. If you've only had a couple of dates and most of your communication has been through text messages, then okay, but otherwise, as Spike Lee said, Do the Right Thing.
Cell Phone:
DON'T be the date who can't get through a movie or dinner or coffee without answering the phone and having a conversation. To do so is rude and disrespectful. If you have an important call that you can't miss, let your date know from the beginning. When the call comes in, take care of business and then turn off your ringer. The only way to get to know someone (which is why you're dating in the first place) is to be in the moment and give them your full attention.
Same goes for emails and texts. They can wait until you're home and alone. If not, then save your date a lot of irritation. Stay home with your phone and let them spend time with someone who is really interested.
Twitter/Facebook/Instagram/etc.
DO spend your time enjoying your date and letting them know that you are, versus putting it out on social media. There's no need to tweet about your date or share your dinner plate on Instagram with your followers in real time. Again, be in the moment with the person you're with and stop worrying about keeping your Facebook friends informed.
Technology can be a great dating tool, but don't let it interfere with your ability to find and effectively nurture your personal relationships.
Smartphones have changed the way we live. These days, there's an app for everything-from buying real estate to pursuing romance. In many ways technology has been a good thing when it comes to dating. Dating on the Internet has brought the dating field into our own living rooms, allowing us to peruse for potential mates at our leisure. Cell phones allow us to keep in touch any and everywhere, while texting has given us a fun and flirty way to woo someone on any given whim.
So, in the spirit of romance, let's dig into one more app-but this time I'm talking apps as in appropriate ways to be a tech savvy dater. Below are a few DO's and DON'Ts when it comes to texting, calling and tweeting.
Texting:
I ain't mad at you if you're out there playing the field and juggling a bevy of partners (as long as they all know this is not an exclusive relationship). But DON'T text next week's date while out with tonight's. Give each person the time, attention, and respect they deserve. Not to do so is just plain rude.
If you've been dating someone for a few months, DON'T breakup with them via text message. Only thoughtless, chicken boneheads break up by text message. Every person in a relationship (and if you spent any kind of quality time with someone, it's a relationship) deserves to be respected with a dignified explanation, at least over the phone, if not in person. If you've only had a couple of dates and most of your communication has been through text messages, then okay, but otherwise, as Spike Lee said, Do the Right Thing.
Cell Phone:
DON'T be the date who can't get through a movie or dinner or coffee without answering the phone and having a conversation. To do so is rude and disrespectful. If you have an important call that you can't miss, let your date know from the beginning. When the call comes in, take care of business and then turn off your ringer. The only way to get to know someone (which is why you're dating in the first place) is to be in the moment and give them your full attention.
Same goes for emails and texts. They can wait until you're home and alone. If not, then save your date a lot of irritation. Stay home with your phone and let them spend time with someone who is really interested.
Twitter/Facebook/Instagram/etc.
DO spend your time enjoying your date and letting them know that you are, versus putting it out on social media. There's no need to tweet about your date or share your dinner plate on Instagram with your followers in real time. Again, be in the moment with the person you're with and stop worrying about keeping your Facebook friends informed.
Technology can be a great dating tool, but don't let it interfere with your ability to find and effectively nurture your personal relationships.
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Lori Bryant-Woolridge is a sensuality coach and advocate for healthy, sensual lifestyles. An Emmy award-winning writer, she has authored three best selling novels.
