Episode 2
Parrish arrives for his first date with Chantal, the sexy and spicy spoken word artist.
Looking for eHarmony in a Match where Black People Meet. Online Dating (Part Two)
In Part One of our online dating series, we talked about what you need to create a successful cyber profile. Here in Part Two, we're talking the Do's and Don'ts of navigating the cyber dating world. So, listen up. There are a few things you need to know, not only be successful in finding love, but safe as well.
1. Do be honest about who you are. Post a recent picture and refrain from exaggeration (and outright lying) in your profile. It's unfair not only to waste your time or theirs, but more importantly, you're sabotaging any chance for a relationship by starting things off with a lie.
2. On the other hand, Don't automatically assume that their photo is as up-to-date as yours. That said; Ladies and Gentlemen, Don't choose your dates simply based on photos. Real men and women have endearing imperfections and if you meet them in person, you might find them interesting and charming enough to continue to date.
3. Ladies, if you are serious about finding love, avoid sounding and looking provocative and overly sexual in your profiles. A little sexy goes a long way with the right guy. And guys, Don't come off sounding like a you're online prowling for a good time. If this is your intent, find the appropriate website. In fact, Don't mention physical intimacy at all.
4. Don't get sucked in by corny, come-on lines promising to spoil you with romantic walks on the beach and candlelit dinners. These kinds of lines are used by guys who think they have a handle on what women want to hear. If you are interested in a relationship and not just sex, Do go for guys whose profiles sound natural and honest about themselves and their desires. Guys, Do watch for red flags as well. Be wary of women specifically looking for things in you that they are unable to provide themselves (financially successful is a big one).
5. Do spend some time getting to know each other first through email, and then move it along to phone talk. Some folks are good writers; other might even have a Cyrano de Bergerac doing all that great writing for them. Talking on the phone will give you a better idea of their personality and conversation skills.
6. For safety reasons, Do create an email address that does not include your last name or gives any personal information, like your birthday. Don't give any personal information that could be used to find out where you live, your home address, home phone. Remain anonymous until you feel safe and ready to reveal personal information. Happy dating!
In Part One of our online dating series, we talked about what you need to create a successful cyber profile. Here in Part Two, we're talking the Do's and Don'ts of navigating the cyber dating world. So, listen up. There are a few things you need to know, not only be successful in finding love, but safe as well.
1. Do be honest about who you are. Post a recent picture and refrain from exaggeration (and outright lying) in your profile. It's unfair not only to waste your time or theirs, but more importantly, you're sabotaging any chance for a relationship by starting things off with a lie.
2. On the other hand, Don't automatically assume that their photo is as up-to-date as yours. That said; Ladies and Gentlemen, Don't choose your dates simply based on photos. Real men and women have endearing imperfections and if you meet them in person, you might find them interesting and charming enough to continue to date.
3. Ladies, if you are serious about finding love, avoid sounding and looking provocative and overly sexual in your profiles. A little sexy goes a long way with the right guy. And guys, Don't come off sounding like a you're online prowling for a good time. If this is your intent, find the appropriate website. In fact, Don't mention physical intimacy at all.
4. Don't get sucked in by corny, come-on lines promising to spoil you with romantic walks on the beach and candlelit dinners. These kinds of lines are used by guys who think they have a handle on what women want to hear. If you are interested in a relationship and not just sex, Do go for guys whose profiles sound natural and honest about themselves and their desires. Guys, Do watch for red flags as well. Be wary of women specifically looking for things in you that they are unable to provide themselves (financially successful is a big one).
5. Do spend some time getting to know each other first through email, and then move it along to phone talk. Some folks are good writers; other might even have a Cyrano de Bergerac doing all that great writing for them. Talking on the phone will give you a better idea of their personality and conversation skills.
6. For safety reasons, Do create an email address that does not include your last name or gives any personal information, like your birthday. Don't give any personal information that could be used to find out where you live, your home address, home phone. Remain anonymous until you feel safe and ready to reveal personal information. Happy dating!
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Lori Bryant-Woolridge is a sensuality coach and advocate for healthy, sensual lifestyles. An Emmy award-winning writer, she has authored three best selling novels.
